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This week I found out that the yoga centre I go to is closing down – I am absolutely gutted.…

May 17, 2015

ESHANA SPIERS

PSYCHOSEXUAL SOMATICS COACH & MENSTRUAL EDUCATOR

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Thank You Men on this Fathers Day. To my Dad who

Thank You Men on this Fathers Day.

To my Dad who is no longer with us and continues to teach me compassion. To my Step Dad that is alive and well and does great things for my family. To my Grandad that was a rock and passed away 10 years ago today - how I love and was loved so dearly by him. To my male friends that show presense and care. To my partner that models love, creativity and dedication to his own children. To my inner father on this path of reparenting. To my grateful heart for receiving it all.

#fathersday #withthanks #love

This beautifully encapsulates why I'm so passionat

This beautifully encapsulates why I'm so passionate about understanding your nervous system.

Once you can spot the clues of your bodily responses, your thought patterns and emotional state - you can understand where you are in your nervous system.

Once you recognise where you are, you can then do things to support its regulation.

Luckily my friends are also nervous system geeks, so we model this for each other. Whether that is doing some belly2belly coregulation exercises to calm the system, growling out some angst or stepping back to resource or ground.

This paragraph is from a fabulous book by Kimberley Ann Johnson - called 'Call of the Wild - how to heal trauma, awaken our power, and use it for good'

#nervoussystemgeek #trauma #recovery #selfawareness #somatics

The Chamber of Separation & Relationship One of

The Chamber of Separation & Relationship

One of the many aspects that I love about The Red Schools framework of menstruation is the 5 chambers/phases that happen during the inner winter or time of your bleed.

5 very distinct qualities emerge, once you get a sense of them, the seeing and experiencing of them becomes quite magical.

The past few cycles I have been switched on to the 'Chamber of Separation'. It occurs around day 26 of my cycle. I have a strong need to completely detach from all connection to others. A couple of months ago, I needed to physically remove myself from the room of my friends. This past month I needed to disconnect from my Beloved.

The disconnect is in preparation to dive deeply into ourselves as we begin to bleed. It's beyond a conscious choice, it's an innate impulse to go within.

This is the juicy part of seeing how menstrual cycle awareness can impact not only ourselves but our relationships.

It is great for me to notice this pattern and be able to express what I need. Normally by doing it 'messily' a couple of times before spotting the pattern in action.

In recognising my need to separate, what impact does that need then have on my partner or friendships? How do they process thier stuff around my need to step back? How can it be communicated in a kind and loving way?

Once the dialogue has opened up then there becomes a framework to navigate it all and to be held within the bigger context of the menstrual cycle working its magic.

It's pretty bloody cool, huh? Pun absolutely intended.

#menstrualcycleawareness #5chambers #chamberofseparation #innerwinter #menstruation

The Big Drop Deeeeeelicious day one vibes on thi

The Big Drop

Deeeeeelicious day one vibes on this new moon. Oxytocin flooding my system, in a dreamy wonderland, energy rooted deep deep down, and deeper still. In my body. In my pleasure. In my exquisite feminine yin nature. Resting in the wholeness of being whilst existence merrily dances within and all around me. Feeling ALIVE in the subtle sensations of my body. The ultimate parasympathetic altered statey dorsal vibes. Yuuuuum to this natural high that this female body creates, month after month after month. Day one of my menstrual cycle is my absolute favourite day of the month.

Cosmic

🌟💛🌟💛🌟💛🌟💛🌟💛🌟💛

#menstrualcycleawareness #dayone #winter #oxytocin #lush #yuuuum

Phewieeee- super sweaty run today - which was the

Phewieeee- super sweaty run today - which was the absolute perfect medicine for me as I'm premenstrual. When you sweat you release excess oestrogen which can help regulate your mood and generally help you feel super.

When im feeling gnarly crunchy, grrrry - moving my body is the fastest way to bring myself back into a centred, grounded place of regulation. It encourages the energy to move through my body and release release release.

As you move towards your bleed, you may notice a gradual drop in your energy levels. It's important to honour that and to not push your body beyond what it needs. So instead of a 4 mile run, I might shake my body, or stamp my feet, still allowing space for the release whilst respecting what my body needs.

#menstryalcycleawarenesstips #autumn #move #sweat #hot #oestrogen

Devouring womby Rumi on day 3 of my cycle 🧡 #l

Devouring womby Rumi on day 3 of my cycle 🧡

#love #truth #beyondwords #rumi

I will love me well, so that I can love you well.

I will love me well, so that I can love you well.

As I embark on the Healing Trauma module of my training in Psychosexual Somatics Coaching, I have been receiving my own therapeutic sessions to support my process.

Working with trauma is all about resourcing, resourcing, resourcing. If you are not efficiently resourced to hold the emotional content that emerges then it can be detrimental to your healing process.

So, to support my journey in unpacking some of my relational trauma, my coach asked me to set a mantra for myself to keep coming back to in the sessions.

"I will love me well, so that I can love you well" kept playing through my mind.... and so I turned it into a little song (creativity being one of my resources)

Loving myself means to resource myself, to find ways to self soothe, to help regulate my nervous system so that I can be in connection with myself, with life, with my beloved, with family and friends.

Do I get it right all of the time, of course not, especially if caffeine or chocolate is involved and ramps up my system.

If im disregulated then I will perceive life as a dangerous place and connection becomes really challenging - I'm either in flight mode - get me outa here OR fight mode where I'll create little dramas out of nothing OR I'll completely dissociate and check out of the connection. All very clever ways of my nervous system trying to bring itself back into safety and regulation.

And so resourcing, resourcing, resourcing is key. Having the cognitive and somatic bodily awareness of this process is super helpful to bring me and my system back into safety.

If you want support to regulate your nervous system so that you can thrive in your connections then get in touch.

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#healingtrauma #connection #disconnection #relationships #thriving #creativity #healingjourney #selfdevelopment #resourcing

Delicious bank holiday vibes with this one ❤ 10

Delicious bank holiday vibes with this one ❤ 10 mile walk with bluebells, apple blossom, sunshine, yoni trees, scrumptious food and a generous serving of love 😍 YUM 😍

Beltane Blessings folks - feeling my inner fire ab

Beltane Blessings folks - feeling my inner fire ablaise as my heart shines brightly like the vibrant blossom in spring. Summer is just around the corner - yippppeeeee!

#beltane #fertility #celebration #life #spring #summer #love

I'm absolutely loving the ripples of love and appr

I'm absolutely loving the ripples of love and appreciation we continue to receive from the participants of the 'Men and the Menstrual Cycle' workshops earlier this year.

These beautiful Inner Season Goddess cards are being shipped off to The Netherlands today to a recent participant. What a gift he is to the people in his life that bleed.

If you want a set of Inner Season Goddess cards (created by @artbywildwiseandbeautyfull wildwiseandbeautyfull) OR want to attend the next Men and the Menstrual Cycle workshop then do get in touch.

#menandthemenstrualcycle #unity #community #love #menstrualcycleawareness

"To find the beloved, you must become the beloved"

"To find the beloved, you must become the beloved" Rumi

It can be easy to loose your centre when life has that funny way of pulsing us into expansion and contraction.

I lost my centre and so made a commitment to come home to myself and my body.

I brought all of my energy back inwards and nurtured the beloved within.

At the same time, some crunchy shadowy aspects of my personality arose in full view for my closest friends to see. You know those parts that you try super hard to squash down and hide.

What to do but to love and hold these tender parts with care. Luckily, I have amazing friendships that model this love externally, making it a gentler and much kinder inner process of acceptance and integration.

And so here I am, in joy, soaking up my own well spring of love....

....to which point, he, the beloved enters my life, my ovulating oestrogen feminine powers magnetising him in. We connect through song and our hearts tenderly awoke.

And so....

To find the beloved, you must become the beloved appears to be very much true.

Thanks Rumi

❤

#joy #love #rumi #beloved #selflove #selfcare #friendship #magic #yum

Celebrate your Magnificence 🌟 The crossover fr

Celebrate your Magnificence 🌟

The crossover from summer to autumn (approx day 19/20) is the perfect time to reflect on how bloomin amazing you are. A fun task I enjoy doing, is to write down all of the wonderful qualities that makes me shine.

At this time you're crossing the threshold where your outward energy draws in, your inner world becomes vibrant and the crunchy crackly parts begin to emerge. When you're deep in the darkness of the premenstrual shadows, you can look back on your list of qualities and celebrate your magnificence, whilst holding those crickly crackly parts with so much love and care.

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#menstrualcycleawareness #crossover #loveyourself #acceptance #celebrate #raiseyourspirits #rememberingyoureseense #summer #autumn

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