Body, Love, Mind, Sexuality

Is Psychosexual Somatics for Me?

In Psychosexual Somatics (PST for short) we believe that all sexual challenges have an underlying emotional root cause. It is only by addressing both the mind, emotions and the body, and by re-regulating the nervous system, that issues can be fully resolved. Therefore, PST is not so much about learning fancy quick tricks to become orgasmic or to last for hours in your love-making.

What PST is about is supporting you to explore your sexuality; to understand how your past could be impacting your present, how your ability to hold boundaries could be impacting your body, how your nervous system could be impacting your sense of safety.

PST is about gently increasing your capacity to be in your body and feel, whilst learning to lovingly be with all aspects of yourself. The process involves getting in touch with your emotional landscape in a slow and safe way so that you can gently begin to open and experience your vibrancy, power and the life-force that fuels your sexuality.

PST can help if you experience any of the following:

  • You’d like to understand yourself and your sexuality more deeply
  • You’d like to become more embodied
  • You’d like to give yourself permission to be a confident sexual being – however that may look for you
  • You experience a lack of desire and arousal
  • You struggle with intimacy
  • You experience sexual shame
  • You have shut down your sexuality
  • Your body image is negatively impacting your sexuality
  • You find it difficult to identify, express and maintain boundaries
  • You have had a kundalini / energy awakening and want support to ground and build a positive relationship with your energy
  • You have vaginismus, vulvadynia or other vaginal pain
  • You are unable to have an orgasm
  • You experience erectile challenges
  • You have early ejaculation
  • You have delayed ejaculation
  • You experience performance anxiety
  • You would like support processing the impact of contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI)

Contra-indications

If you are on anti-depressants, have a psychiatric diagnosis or have addictions such as alcohol or recreational drugs then PST is not the best service to support your journey at this time.

There may be other aspects that arise during the assessment which would mean that we are not suitable to work with each other. For example, if there is a strong positive or negative charge between us or if there are other practitioners that can better support you. In which case this will be discussed within the first 2 sessions.

To get the most out of your PST journey, it will be useful to have some experience of dropping into your body and feeling your emotions. PST can involve deep emotional work so if you are not resourced emotionally or physically, then PST is not the right source of support for you at this time .

My intention for your sessions

My guiding intention is to meet you from a heart centred space, to hear you and reflect back the things that need to be seen and expressed. My intention is to support you to build your own inner resources; to regulate your nervous system, to anchor a loving connection with yourself, to become more juicy, embodied and alive, and to strengthen your inner authority and power.

Want to start your PST journey?

Contact me for a complimentary 20 minute call to discuss your sex and intimacy challenges – email eshana@loveandcareforyourself.co.uk

Body, Sexuality, Spirit

Psychosexual Somatics – What’s My Story?

In November 2017, whilst out on a walking meditation, I had a sexual and spiritual awakening. Energy erupted from within me and my body began rippling in waves of orgasmic pleasure in a way that I didn’t even know was possible. I had come home to my body and her sensations and in doing so my entire being expanded. A deep connection to myself and to source ignited and my life has not been quite the same ever since.

Generally we’re not taught what is possible when it comes to sexuality, especially female sexuality, unless we do a little digging. I certainly knew nothing about awakening, that was for Buddhist monks, right…not a 30 something Family Support Worker from Surrey. I was also completely unaware of the connection between sexuality and spirituality.

Expansion and Contraction

The period following my initial opening was actually a little scary. My body felt completely out of my control, it would shake and convulse and move into yogic postures beyond what my mind could understand, the energy within me had an intelligence and will of its own… even in the middle of the night whilst I was asleep! It was really intense feeling my body become so alive.

As the energy began to calm, I was on top of the world, I had multiple layers of holding from my 18 month tantra training, from living in community and a new found inner love which made me feel radiant from the inside out.

But alas with every expansion, there is also a period of contraction that follows. It was a tough transition to be pulled back inward after such a peak experience. I realise now that this pulsing of expansion and contraction is normal and an important opportunity for integration to take place. Just likes the patterns we see in nature, in flowers and the outer seasons, we open and we close and then open again.

After Awakening

The aftermath of awakening has been about grounding and building a relationship with this new sensitivity and energy that flows within me. Is it kundalini, is it life-force, is it sexual energy, is it prana, or are they all just the same thing? Why is my body shaking and contorting in these crazy, intense and quite bizarre ways? Is it orgasmic or is it trauma releasing, or is my body using its natural resources to bring my nervous system back into balance? Is my nervous system trying to tell me something? All questions that have fed a thirsty curiosity to understanding myself and my sexuality further.

The fabulous Isis Leor once said that having a kundalini awakening is like a self cleaning oven for your nervous system. I really understand that, my system has been completely shaken and layers of gunk have been stripped from my body, landing myself in a completely new way of being. I’ve needed to make huge life changes to support me in the process, leaving my career, changing my diet and stepping away from relationships…. all guided by the voice of my nervous system and the deeper truth of my heart.

So…How Did I Open?

My journey of opening wasn’t all love and light….it was predominantly about coming home to my body and starting to feel. Feeling my pain, unpacking my trauma, my anger, my arousal, my hearts longing, my attachment patterns. Feeling it all after a lifetime of being disconnected and dissociated from my bodyI courageously followed the call of my heart and each therapist, workshop, training and retreat held an important piece to my sexual healing and awakening puzzle.

Psychosexual Somatics Therapy

I then discovered Psychosexual Somatics after watching Sexology, a fantastic documentary film which tracks a woman’s journey of sexual healing and awakening. Mike Lousada was one of the practitioners in the film and I followed his work for a couple of years before signing up for his training.

Psychosexual Somatics Therapy (or PST for short) held a vitally important piece of my puzzle. I got a deeper appreciation of my awakening which was rooted in both science and spirituality. I opened further when I understood how my past impacts my adult relating, my sexuality, my ability to express and maintain boundaries, my connection to self and to source. I experienced the PST process in my mind by understanding, in my body through felt experience and then with emotional and energetic release by connecting to the parts of me that needed to be heard, felt, expressed and loved.

Does PST hold the next piece of your healing journey?

Sexuality is often the last area that people explore in their self development journey and yet it is such a core aspect of our being. It opens my heart to be able to offer this work, bringing the light of awareness to the areas that can block us from having the intimacy, sexuality and connection that is deeply longed for.

In recognition of this, I’m offering a special half price discount to new clients who register by July 31st 2020. If you want to know more about PST, then check out this page to see if PST could work for you.

If it’s a big YES then you can contact me to arrange a complimentary 20 minute call to explore your sex and intimacy challenges – email me at: eshana@loveandcareforyourself.co.uk