I specifically refer to woman/women in much of my work and recognise that using binary language around gender is super problematic. I’ve been on a big personal journey unpacking my own gender identity and gender politics, it is complex, feels like a sensitive topic and I most definitely do not have all of the answers. I wanted to find language that honours my identity as a woman whilst acknowledging that there is a full spectrum of gender identity. I have deep reverence to Sue Sutherland for supporting me with this process.
It doesn’t feel inclusive for me to stop using the term ‘woman’ in my work – I absolutely love being a woman, I love my body, my breasts, the fact that I bleed and my mind is blown that I can grow a human life in my womb if I choose to.
I recognise that for some people, being assigned female at birth is not how they choose to identify as later in life. They feel in their hearts and minds that they are not a woman and instead are non binary or identify as a man. I have compassion for the complex path of claiming your gender identity and the vulnerabilities as well as empowerment this can create across many different aspects of life.
In my sexuality work, I specifically work with women and non binary folk with vulvas.
In my menstrual education work – I speak to women and those that bleed. I recognise and honour the trans men that have a menstrual cycle and the challenges this can cause. I acknowledge the non binary folk that bleed that don’t connect with much of the language that is used in ‘women’s work’. I also include women that do not have a menstrual cycle because of the sacred process of menopause, those that are on hormonal contraception, those that do not bleed due to health reasons, due to pregnancy and breast feeding. I welcome in the brothers to inspire a deeper understanding and connection with the women and humans in their life that bleed.
If this resonates with you then I am humbly open to working with you. If you are needing something a little different from what I offer then pop over to my Recommended Practitioners page as there may be someone there that can meet your needs.
In love and service
Eshana (She, Her)