Sexuality

The light and shadow of s.xuality.

S.x can hold our greatest potential and also magnify the tenderness of our hearts and wounding.

The light being our capacity for expansive heart and s.x connection, bodies vibrating with pleasure, deep blissful union with Yourself, Your beloved and Spirit.

The shadow being all of the ways that we use s.x and s.xual energy to fulfil our unmet needs for love, connection, comfort, safety and validation.

I’ve been in both camps for sure!!

How to navigate this terrain of light and shadow?

In my work as a Psychosexual Somatics Coach, I support you to understand what the relationship is with your s.xuality. How your past experiences could be influencing how you show up in your sexuality, intimacy and relating. It is a process of building your resources to be with your emotions, to occupy your body and to regulate your nervous system so that you can have a deeper connection with yourself and others. It is a slow, gentle and trauma informed process.

It all starts with a 90 minute S.xual History Assessment where we start to unravel your relating patterns. This is where the light bulb moments begin to happen and the seeds of change are planted.

I am offering a discounted rate during April of £30 for the initial session.

If you’re curious, you can book in for a free 20 minute call where we can explore your s.x and intimacy challenges so that you can step towards the connection and intimacy that you deeply long for.

Menstrual Cycle Awareness, Menstrual Magic

Premenstrual Permission

Do you experience overwhelming emotions, irritability, depression, sensitivity, mood swings, anger, anxiety, fearfulness, intolerance, frustration or a heightened inner critic just before your bleed?

Imagine that you had a monthly safe container to release the premenstrual angst, tension and emotional overwhelm. Giving yourself full permission to feel what needs to be felt, say what needs to be said and move your body how it needs to be moved. Remember, emotions are energy-in-motion. If you hold onto them and leave them unexpressed without release, they can go stagnant and get stored into that gorgeous body of yours.

I designed ‘Premenstrual Permission’ for people like me, who arrive at the end of their menstrual cycle in a bit of an emotional mess. After being tuned into the gifts of my menstrual cycle for nearly 6 years, I still can feel the ground fall out from beneath me in the few days leading up to my bleed. The most effective way I have found to soften the tension in this time is to turn to someone who can hold me in my process. I do not need to do this alone and neither do you. 

Why do I feel so emotional just before my bleed?

During Autumn (the week before your bleed) there is a rise and fall in oestrogen and progesterone levels, this fluctuation in hormones can impact our emotional landscape and produce the symptoms listed above. More interestingly though, the veil between the subconscious mind becomes thinner and more active during the premenstrual phase.

I find autumn the most challenging and yet most fascinating time to navigate. I experience this to be a potent time for great integration and healing. Why? Because we are being tasked to face ourselves and our emotions become a barometer for what is not working in our life. Past traumas can emerge, our core wounds are closer to the surface, we become sensitive and our intuition shines like gold. The absolute gift in this process is that with a little support we can become the all seeing wise woman, the enchantress that can see what is real, what needs to be faced, what needs to be worked through, cleared, released and changed in order to heal.

What happens if I continue to ignore how I’m feeling?

If we don’t pay attention to the emotional feedback in Autumn then it will have a knock on effect into the new cycle. The tension will continue to build, making you more sensitive to others. You can end up taking things out on your partner, kids, friends, colleagues or directing your struggle inwards, cranking up the volume of the inner critic. If we do not release some of the tension during Autumn then our periods can be heavier and uncomfortable, we can experience lower energy levels throughout the month and when we get round to the next cycle, the tension can be amplified even more if the emotions are not properly acknowledged. Imagine how much baggage you have been carrying month after month after month.

Empty Yourself

When you fully empty your emotional container you can start your new cycle afresh. A new you can emerge and expand based on the true life and values you want to live by. 

I am a trauma informed practitioner that will provide a space for you to empty in those crucial days before your bleed. I will compassionately hold a space for you to explore, express and release. It can be a space where you can learn about your nervous system and how to regulate it. A space for you to build your inner resources, to get an understanding of what your core wounds are and learn how to see the gifts in them.

Give yourself permission to be the full expression of who you are, to feel , to release and be reborn each and every month.

All of this for an introductory sliding scale offer of £25 – £60 a session, simply pay the price that reflects your income. If you are curious and want to explore this further then you can book in for a free 20 minute call here.